Mentality Monday 19

Good morning, darlings, and happy Monday! After an emotionally trying week I decided to take the entire weekend to spend with family and friends in our beautiful mountainous surroundings so that I could return totally refreshed to you today. This week I'll be adding some new listings to the shop and writing 2 new bookish editorials for your enjoyment as well. The weekly newsletter will go out tonight at 6pm MST so sign up below if you don't want to miss out! Now for a very special Mentality Monday post...

Mentality Monday 19: "Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway." - Kent M. Keith

In 1968, Kent M. Keith published the Paradoxical Commandments as part of his book The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council. (Make sure to visit his website so that you can read more about the origins of this book and his subsequent writings)

The statement in the Mentality Monday image above is the 10th commandment from Keith. The entire set is as follows,

  1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
  2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
  3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
  4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
  5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
  6. The biggest men with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.
  7. People favor underdogs, but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
  8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
  9. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway.
  10. Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.

Today is my mother’s birthday so I’m dedicating this Mentality Monday and blog post to her. She embodies these words and taught her children to do the same. The guiding force of our lives, she reared us with an undying belief in kindness. I learned what true altruism looks like from watching her throughout my life and continue to marvel at her tenderness to this day. Many people may cynically (and incorrectly) have the opinion that altruism (Webster’s defines it as “unselfish regard for or devotion to the welfare of others”) does not exist; that people always have ulterior motives for their kindness. I’m here to tell you that’s untrue. My mother has spent decades faithfully helping those around her in whatever way possible with no motives to receive a benefit of any kind for herself. She works tirelessly and quietly in the background of our church as well as in our home, only aiming to serve where she is needed to the best of her abilities. She’s wonderful.

She brought these values into our lives and we do our best to carry them through into our lives as well. Regardless of how we have been treated in life, we must continue to keep the faith and give them the best we have anyway. We have to keep doing all that we can to improve the lives of those around us, and I can safely say that my mom has lived a life that will always prove how beautifully accurate that ideal will always be.

Happy birthday, Mom!